Thursday, 16 December 2010

Friends, angels, cakes and puddles

This morning fellow greenie and ethical trader, Barbara, visited Eltbus Towers.  She brought with her a beautful arrangement she had made which included cinnamon sticks, dried orange slices, sprigs of rosemary from her garden and nuts in an earthenware pot decorated with raffia. What a beautiful and thoughtful gift.

We chatted about the challenges of low budget gardening, funding applications and promoting fair trade over a cup of coffee (fair trade obv) and some wonderul cake Barbara had picked up from Falko konditormeister in Gullane.

This afternoon I went to the Nativity at the infant school.  It was lots of fun.  I especially liked the carols, my favourite being Hallelujah, Sing Hallelujah.  This evening, Lucy and Georgie returned to school with Nigel for a second performance.

I was glad to have a quiet evening with Emily who was feeling a bit sorry for herself after being travel sick on the way back from the panto.

We talked and I read to her some of the confidence booster tips in The Green Parent:

  1. Stand Tall - As you walk down the street, remember to stand tall and take in a deep breath. Imagine you are breathing in confidence!
  2. Smile - Try and look for little things to smile about and smile at strangers. Just the act of smiling releases endorphins into your bloodstream.
  3. Accept Compliments - Every time someone pays you a compliment, accept their words graciously and really own that compliment rather than just laughing it of.
  4. Journal - Keep a diary and try to note down all all your successes. Really celebrate and reward yourself for each of your achievements!
  5. Friends - Surround yourself with positive and confident people who make you feel good about yourself. Do activities that encourage you to get out in nature and exercise. You might like create a 'dream team' - a group of people who support and motivate you and share your dreams.
  6. Mirror - Look into a mirror and say 'I love you' Remind yourself of what makes you special. This is a hard one to start with, but will get easier with time.
  7. List Achievements - Make a book of your achievements, talents and qualities. List all your successes and things that you are proud of. List all the things that makes you the special person that you are and include all the things that you have done to others and how you have made others happy. You might like to put them in a book and refer to it when you are feeling low.
  8. Self Talk - As much as possible talk to yourself in a kind and positive way. If you notice you talk to yourself in a negative way with put downs, try to stop and change your self talk.
  9. Use Affirmations - Each day, repeat one positive statement or affirmation. You might say 'I am positive and everything that happens is good' or 'I am special and I make a difference' You might even like to theme your day as a positive, happy, confident, joyful or special day and do things that make you feel that way. 
  10. Relax and Visualise - Close your eyes and imagine you are standing in front of a mirror. See yourself standing tall, smiling and looking great. Notice how you feel. Let the positive and confident feelings wash all over you.

It's hard being 10.  Everything is so much simpler at Georgie's age.  Georgie's best friend is a little girl called G.  Today Georgie tried to be a good friend to G:

Georgie: "G was crying today because her great-granny has gone to heaven"
Me: "Oh, that's a shame, poor G"
Georgie: "I told her not to worry because God would look after her"
Me: "That was a kind thing to say.  Did it make her feel better?"
Georgie: "No.  But what did make her feel better was jumping over puddles".

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